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I must confess that I’m not usually that sensational. I don’t normally say things like “The Big Lie” or “The Unknown Facts” and other such things. However, in this case of emotional attachments I will make an exception.
Attachments are the other side of the coin that we looked at yesterday with aversions. Attachments are the exact inverse, but the do the exact same thing in almost the exact same way.
First, they set you up.
It starts out with desiring a particular outcome. There’s nothing wrong with that at all, but when you start investing your emotions in the result that you start to venture into dangerous water. If you wind up putting your sense of self, or your sense of security on the line for that one particular outcome, you start to lose all sense of proportion and common sense. Congratulations, you just landed yourself in the land of emotional attachments.
Then, they lie to you.
Now that you have this attachment, it won’t let you go. It will keep you convinced that the only way for you to be happy is to keep pouring more and more of yourself into the attachment (not, by the way, to the outcome, but to the attachment. Look reeeeaaaal close and you’ll see the difference). Usually about this time someone will suggest getting the same result by another method. A good tool to use is to take a deep breath and ask yourself if the other idea has merit. If it doesn’t then heres the real question: Why?
If you look it over and see that it’s not a solid idea or that it has a major flaw, then that’s fine. If, however, you “just know” that it has to be done this way, and that it must succeed or else, then you can probably figure it out from there.
But that’s not the big lie. The really nasty thing about emotional attachments is that they give you the idea that by pouring yourself into and holding on to that attachment is the only way forward. What it doesn’t tell you is that by maintaining a death grip does the reverse.
How many times have you been in a learning process and someone has told you that you were trying too hard? How often has someone said to you to relax and have fun with what you were doing? If you can let go of the attachment, then you can in turn find the best, fastest, safest, surest way of bringing about that which you desire. I’ll have more on that in the next couple of articles.
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